"I HATE public speaking."
"I SUCK at public speaking."
"@$* public speaking!"
These are some of the comments I read on the Web every day. Stated with such vehemence and anger!
Once again, I'd like to remind you: You are creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. How can you ever learn to enjoy public speaking if you constantly say you hate it? How can you ever improve at public speaking if you constantly say you suck at it?
You're human. You feel nervous. We all do. And you're normal. Some are more afraid than others, but as I mentioned in this post and this post, very few people actually have public speaking phobia or social anxiety.
So get out of your own way. Get over the drama and make a plan. You can't avoid public speaking forever, so why not make an effort to figure out how not to hate it and how not to suck at it?
Your life will be so much easier when you stop resisting, accept the discomfort, challenge yourself, and get past the hurdles you have created for yourself.
What actions have you taken to change the way you think about public speaking?