Here's another illuminating post I'd like to share with you, by Heather Stubbs at the Tips on Talking blog.
The concept is simple: Your skill level has nothing to do with your worth as a person. So simple, yet so hard to embrace!
Here's an excerpt:
"Think of all the fields in which people work with coaches –- every sport, every art. Anyone who seeks to improve their performance in anything needs an outside pair of eyes and ears, simply because we don’t see and hear ourselves as others do. A person’s skill level has nothing to do with their quality as a person. Besides, recognizing that someone else can offer constructive input is a sign of strength, not weakness."
Heather is talking about how we frequently confuse our abilities with our self-worth, and how harmful it is to stay stuck in that mindset. If you don't keep learning, you won't keep growing. But some people can't separate constructive criticism and instruction from humiliation and failure.
Read the post here and think about this: Are you hanging your self-worth on your abilities? Or are you okay with making mistakes and accepting help as part of the learning and growing process?