They feel that it's their responsibility to sum up their entire lifetime relationship with the bride or groom in two minutes, while not embarrassing themselves or the wedding party. And then there are those whose goal is to embarrass the wedding party... but that's another blog post.
Here's the secret of the wedding speech: It may be the easiest speech you ever give, so look at it as an opportunity to have fun, and don't make it more than it is. Don't believe me? See below.
1. The audience isn't there to hear you.
In a typical presentation, you are expected to know stuff. You have material to deliver, and your audience depends on you to learn something or take action after your talk.
However, at a wedding, there are no expectations of expertise on your part. You are just a guy (or gal) who's there to support the bride and groom. You don't have to know anything!
2. You don't need to create content.
At a wedding or rehearsal dinner, all anyone wants to hear is stories about the bride and groom. The stories can be funny, heartbreaking, silly or (slightly) embarrassing, but you don't have to make anything up. Any story you remember from your relationship is good enough. And if you've been asked to speak, you certainly have many stories to choose from. Tell a story and you're good.
3. People just want to drink.
Notice how everyone has their hand wrapped around a glass of champagne? They're just waiting for you to finish so they can make a toast and tip their glass. The audience is there to celebrate. It's a party. So keep it short and bottoms up!
I hope these tips help you find the fun in the wedding speech. Always remember: It's not about you, it's about the audience. And in this case, it's about the bride and groom. No speech could be easier, when the audience is so focused on someone else! Speak from the heart and have a great time.