November 30, 2021

How's your mental game?




Athletes know that a major component of being successful in sports is having the right mental attitude or mindset. Presenting is a lot like playing a sport both in the physical and mental preparation aspects, but a lot of presenters' mental game is not up to the challenge.

What do I mean by "mental game?"

1. Anticipate, plan and prepare for anything that might go wrong

What happens if your computer crashes while you're showing slides? What happens if you lose your place? What happens if someone challenges your facts during Q&A?

Sometimes you're prepared to speak for an hour, but the meeting before you goes long and your time gets cut. Sometimes you expect an audience of fifty and you get an audience of five.

Having a strong mental game means being able to shift gears at a moment's notice, take what you're given, and run with it.

2. Reframe nervousness into positive attitude and energy

There's no difference between "bad" and "good" adrenaline - your thoughts assign adrenaline negative or positive value. Thought stopping, positive self-talk, relaxation and other mental and physical tools can get you in a calmer state to face your audience.

3. Visualize yourself relaxed and connecting with the audience

Envision yourself nailing your presentation in front of a satisfied and smiling audience. Elite athletes use visualization and mental rehearsal both to imagine a successful outcome of an event and to rest and relax.

4. Give 100% when you only feel 50%

I've presented with a 104-degree fever. I've given a training on two hours of sleep. I've delivered workshops while dealing with grief and loss. Your audience deserves your very best. If you can't reschedule (and I would've if I could've!), give them what they came for and recover later.

5. Accept that mishaps will happen, and handle them with grace and humor

Everyone makes mistakes, and most of the time your audience doesn't even know you've messed up. Suck it up, laugh it off, and move on!

The mental game of speaking parallels the mental game of sports, and speakers can learn a lot from athletes who use these tools.

What else would you add to my list? Please share!



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November 5, 2021

Five free and low-cost ways to learn about public speaking!













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November 3, 2021

Three options for when you have to speak after "that guy"















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October 28, 2021

Price is not the same as value



Our bath towels have been looking ratty for a while. I don't care so much about my own use, but I've been looking for a new set for when guests come over.

There are so many deals on towels out there! And I kept reading reviews and thinking, "Wow, this is a great deal, but are they good towels?"

And then it hit me.

We haven't bought towels in over a decade. 🤯 And yet, very few of them are actually shredded or in bad enough shape that we can't use them. I started to wonder what the cost per use had turned out to be. Pennies? Fractions of pennies?

I told my husband about a set of towels I found for $100 and how they sounded really great but really expensive, and he pointed out how long towels last and how many uses we get out of them. If these towels last another 20 or 30 years, is $100 a good value?

As a speaking coach, I get a lot of tire-kickers, people who are looking for the cheapest option, not the best value.

And I've done the same over the years. It took me a LONG time to start investing REAL money in my business, in my learning, in my coaching.

And what happened when I stopped looking for the cheapest products and services? I found exceptional value: Programs and products that would serve me for YEARS, much longer than the actual amount of time I spent in the program or working with the coach.

Some of my investments pay off immediately; some pay off over time.

That's not to say that every high-priced offer is worth it. Research is required, and sometimes we're disappointed with the outcomes.

(And sometimes we're disappointed with the outcomes because we didn't do the work!

Sometimes good value comes at a low-low price. But pay attention to the "cost per use."

Pay attention to the long-term value you'll get from working with an experienced and knowledgeable coach. It might cost more, but it'll be worth it when you're still using what you learned years later!


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October 27, 2021

Put me in your pocket for just-in-time coaching



Who needs a speaking coach in your back pocket? 🙋🏽‍♀️🙋🏼‍♀️ 

My Unlimited Quick Results Laser Coaching program is for experienced speakers and leaders who want to grow your visibility and credibility, and still need regular tweaks, updates and refreshers (don’t we all?) to your presentation, your vision, your mindset, your positioning and your next right action. 

🌠 Clarify and strengthen your core message 
🌠 Check the flow of your ideas and audience journey 
🌠 Create an engagement strategy 
🌠 Develop or practice your powerful opening or closing 
🌠 Lay out your content structure and timing (especially for those micro-presentations that are popping up all over!) 
🌠 Make sure your unique style and personality is coming through 
🌠 Brush up on your remote delivery, engagement tools or tech 
🌠 Practice any of the above 
🌠 Work on any aspect of your content, mindset, or delivery that’s holding you back from being your best self in front of your in-person or remote audience 
🌠 Create your speaking vision, plan, process and action steps to get you where you want to be!

Reserve your 1:1 spot with me here.


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October 26, 2021

Don't sweat the platitudes... and they're all platitudes



I need to have a chat with you about platitudes.

"Don't sweat the small stuff... and it's all small stuff."

Who decides what's small in YOUR life? What might seem small to someone else might seem huge to you. It is certainly NOT all small stuff.

Or "What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger."

What doesn't kill you can often make you sicker, weaker, or otherwise impaired (hello long-haul COVID). Not everyone comes away stronger from adversity.

How about "Good things take time?" I saw that on a greeting card at Trader Joe's and picked it up because I liked the phrase and the colors, and I thought it related well to something I wanted to teach about speaking.

But you know what? Sometimes good things take practically NO time! I mean, a quick summer salad of ripe tomatoes, fresh burrata cheese, and a drizzle of olive oil takes about five minutes, but it's delicious.

Sometimes a work of art or a book takes years to complete. Other times, the creativity just flows and the work is finished in weeks.

So how long are you willing to wait for that "good thing?" How long is TOO long?

And therein lies one issue with platitudes. Not only are they trite, shallow, and unoriginal, but they're not even true. Or maybe true some of the time but not enough of the time.

On top of that, platitudes can make us feel like we're not doing life right.

Like "I know it's all small stuff, so why can't I move on?"

Or "I know I should live and let live, but how can I turn a blind eye to injustice and oppression?"

Or "I know they say it will all be worth it in the end, but I'm not sure I can go on like this."

Nathan J. Robinson says, "If we accept suffering, for example, as natural and inevitable, then it is easier to be comfortable with the existence of large amounts of it. If it simply 'is what it is,' then getting enraged by it is futile and irrational. But to me, that’s monstrous.

We have to examine things critically rather than passively accepting tautological justifications for them. To do otherwise is to be both morally and intellectually lazy."

Robinson also points out that some platitudes ARE true and also profound, like "Be the change you wish to see in the world." That's a worthy goal, to be sure.

If you're going to be on stage (or use social media as a platform for your cause or message) at least share your own ideas, as much as any of our ideas can be new again.

There are absolutely fresh ways to express timeless ideas that keep you from melting into the masses posting tired cliches.

Do we really need someone to tell us AGAIN: "People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care???"

Raise your hand if you roll your eyes 39 times a day at motivational platitudes. 🙋🏻‍♀️🙄



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October 19, 2021

It's okay to be "unprofessional"



"'Professional' is a racist, sexist, ableist standard." Simone Grace Seol
"Emotion in business is unprofessional."
"Black women's natural hair is unprofessional."
"Tattoos are unprofessional."
"Facial hair is unprofessional."
"Poor grammar/spelling is unprofessional."

And for speakers (I've actually heard these):

"Flat shoes are unprofessional."
"Curly hair is unprofessional."
"Showing bare arms is unprofessional."
"Not wearing makeup is unprofessional."
"Saying 'um' is unprofessional."
"Sitting down while presenting is unprofessional."

Oftentimes, we're told our appearance is unprofessional if we don't meet gender norms or dominant cultural norms.

Other times, not living up to certain educational or other social norms peg us as "unprofessional."

There are definitely things I would call out as unprofessional in business:

👎🏼 Lack of respect for colleagues or customers
👎🏼 Consistently showing up late
👎🏼 Being unresponsive to emails or phone calls
👎🏼 Taking credit for others' work
👎🏼 Lying

But I will fight you over the lists above. 🥊 (If you want to argue with me about spelling and grammar, Google "literacy privilege.")

And I will keep serving my clients with alternating pink and gray hair, five-inch long earrings, visible tattoo, and flat shoes.

Because these things have nothing to do with how well I do my job and everything to do with me being a fulfilled, aligned, and happy human being.

As Madison Butler 🏳️‍🌈🦄 (one of my favorite DEI advocates on LinkedIn) says: "I'm not for everyone." 😉

What have you heard is "unprofessional" in business that you disagree with? Let me know in the comments!

(You can also comment on or like the original LinkedIn post here. It's currently at 404 reactions, 131 comments, 20+ shares, and 14,866 views in the feed.)


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